Self love. Arguably the most important kind.
“The most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone who loves the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous!”
I was scrolling through Pinterest (as one does when the inspiration well is running dry) when this quote popped up. Of course, the always influential Carrie Bradshaw was the one to say this. The girl all of us typing away now wanted to be back then.
It got me thinking on just how important self love is. How often do you like yourself? I’m hoping a fair amount! Now how often do you love yourself? I mean really love YOU. No matter how many people you surround yourself with, no one will ever know you like yourself. Which means (obvi) that you’ve seen yourself in the darkest moments and the brightest. You know what thoughts lurk in your mind. We spend so much of our time teaching kids to love everyone, to be kind to everyone. But at what stage of life are we taught to love ourselves and be kind to ourselves?
Last year I was hit a lil hard by life, but honestly who doesn’t have years like that?! I won’t bore you with the details, but it pretty much got to a point where I had to look at myself in the mirror and ask “who are you”. I felt like I’d taken my true spirit and for one reason or another, to make this or that person more comfortable, I had suppressed her as far down inside of me as possible. Resulting in me losing myself completely. After the dust settled from my involuntary self appraisal, I was dedicated to finding out who I was. What do I like? What’s my style? What is a deal breaker for me in the relationships I have with people? What the hell do I want my purpose in this life to be?!
Rediscovering Aimee was…a challenge. My minds metaphorical waste bin was overflowing with crumpled up pieces of ideas. It honestly wasn’t until I decided to start this blog that I really got on a sure fire path to loving the person I am. Because along with this blog came so many comfort zones I had to step out of. And outside of those comfort zones was life. And guess who realized she has an unquenchable thirst for life.
Also, I’m a firm believer that your relationship with yourself will fully effect your relationships with other people. If you aren’t happy with who you are, you won’t believe that anyone else could be. Your mind plays tricks on you, babe. And those tricks feed off of the negative energy you allow to seep into your thoughts.
Let’s do a lil exercise. Take a negative thought:
“Why is she getting the collabs I want?! I work just as hard as her. I put just as much effort into my content. I’ve been doing this longer. This is unfair. I quit!”
Now, flip it!
“Look how far I’ve come in a year! Look at the quality of my content now compared to six months ago. I am proud of the work I’ve done and know that I have the potential to do even better!”
Look at it this way- you were divinely created. God does not make mistakes. He knew the world needed you and that’s what the world got…YOU. And this world would be so dim without you.
I’m going to leave y’all with something that I truly want you to try. Leave yourself love notes. I’m so serious. I do this. I have found random cards through the years that speak to me when I can’t speak to myself. DO THAT. Use post-it notes and put them on your bathroom mirror, the dashboard in your car, on your work computer. Just somewhere you’ll see them everyday (preferably first thing) and write loving things on them to yourself. It’s up to you what you write. Only you know what you need to hear.
I love you guys and you should love you. You are anything you want to be if you are just brave enough to get real with yourself, hash out all the issues, and grow within.
More self love baby girl.
Talk soon babes,